Mahnoor Ahmed
Saturday 11th March 2006 10:23:55 PM
She stayed with her family for eight days before being taken to hospital. Aapa thought she had a sore throat because on Thursday morning she wasn't drinking her milk properly and couldn't go to sleep. To ask for help, Mum was called who did a check on the baby. She found out that the baby cried when she touched her heart, but didn't tell Aapa and it would cause distress (especially at this time of night).
The following morning they took her to the local GP who said the baby was fine; Aapa was unconvinced and took the baby to the hospital. Even the doctor at hospital said everything was OK. A nurse asked Aapa if she would like a child specialist to do a check-up. Ofcourse Aapa said yes.
After doing some scans, the child specialist told Aapa that it was serious (some kind of heart problem) but nothing Leeds Hospital won't be able to fix. They kept the baby at the hospital for a few hours before sending her to Leeds St James.
Aapa was devastated and agitated. It was late at night, me, Aapa, Mum, Dad, and uncle (who came to the UK a few days before) went to Leeds to get an update. The doctor told us that it was serious and they might have to do an operation as the baby's heart was pumping excess blood around the body and they would have to put something her blood vessels to get it back to normal. He told us these certain blood vessels are below the stomach and in the brain.
They had put the baby on a life support machine, on morphine and were feeding her through a tube. She didn't look good at all. The doctor went on to say a heart specialist will be in on the morning who will be able to advise them before they can take further action.
We headed home in silence, shocked by the news the doctor gave us. It really was a sleepless night. The next morning, Aapa and the Rents went to Leeds Hospital to hear some really bad news, that her daughter, their grand-daughter won't be alive for much longer.
One can only imagine what went through their minds. The reason given by the doctor was that Mahnoor's heart had been working overtime (double the usual) and she would not be able to breath on her own for long if taken off the life-support machine.
Everyone knew the baby was breathing faster than the average person, but we had thought that baby's were like this. We were wrong.
The doctor went on to say that there wasn't even a 1% chance of the baby surviving; otherwise they would have done an operation in an attempt to save her.
We had to break the news to Aapa's other half and his family who were in America. He was planning to come here in a month's time when Aapa was feeling better after having the baby, but now decided to get an emergency flight over.
He arrived on Saturday morning (9:15) and within an hour set-off for the hospital. After spending some time with their daughter they had to give permission to the doctors to switch off the life-support machine the baby was on. Mahnoor's heart only managed to beat for half an hour, just as the doctors had predicted.
There is more to the story, e.g. how and where the funeral was held and how we dealt with people coming over to show their condolences (both houses were full – top to bottom). I'm going to finish it there as this is the bulk of the situation.
Mahnoor Ahmed, may you rest in peace.
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May allah give you, your family and your sister the strength to get through this difficult time, may mahnoor ahmed rest in peace. Ameen
cant even imagine what the mothers heart wud hv gone thru.an aunt of mine lost her first son on his first bday.she had to take antidepresants for a long time aftr tht.take gr8 care of her.
May Allah give ur family n especially ur sis strenght to pass through all this, my prayers r there.
Takecare,
samrina
Allah wanted little Mahnoor back with him, her little spirit must be with him now.
You know, they say, that when a newborn dies, they wait for their mother's in heaven, where they are once again reunited. My mother told me this becuase she too lost a baby, and learned this from others through the grieveing process. There is always justice and balance in Allah's actions.
All my prayers, love and sympathy are with you and your family Toseef. Life sometimes brings with it a lot of pain. But in the end, we are reunited with those we love again, Inshallah Ameen.
S
really sorry to hear about your loss and the suferring that your family has been through. May Allah give your apa and her family the stregth to bear this loss. Ameen.
Hi, I stopped by after your kind post on my site (thank you very much) and was heartbroken to read this series of posts. Condolences to you and your family. I hope that you are able to continue finding peace and support in each other.
I'm so sorry. Everything happens for a reason but I felt soo sad reading this post.